i overheard my wife talking about me

A DAD whose wife and kids stopped talking to him because he was covered in tattoos says he has no regrets. If it was truly a complete accident, she wouldn't continue joking about it with them. Its unsettling that she would remain friends with people who dared to judge her in that way, and that she even tries to gain their approval by talking trash about the beautiful sex you two get to have together. Its just so cowardly and shows she's not on your team. It's mainly drunk talk and a bit of peer pressure getting to your wife and she clearly regrets it We all make mistakes sometimes but this is how you grow as a couple! Go out and do things during those days, don't wallow. No one cares. The whole oh I was just really drunk excuse for any stupid decision is pure bullshit. And sometimes its nice to vent about the small stuff and have close friends relate to you and help you feel youre not alone. How disgusting can she be? So what you should do? You deserve so much better than this. Shes hurt you, she needs to stand by you and say that shes proud of you and supports you, has no doubts, and enjoys it herself. How many people knew about it since she let it slip, considering she's telling the truth and it was only two years ago that she told somebody. Marriage counseling needed. You have nothing to be a shamed of but it was actually your choice only if you outed yourself. Anyone that believes stay for the kids has literally never had any experience as a kid whos parents stayed for them. Then go for it. Too many people on this app will read this and tell she can never be trusted again and you need to divorce. How do you hang out with that friend group now knowing all their extra bullshit? I have no idea how you will be able to have sex with her. I had no privacy. Ban the girls from the house. I honestly don't know if your marriage can survive this. Those homophobes won't care that he's married to a woman. Sorry if this is all over the place. That would be the end for me. I'm glad she apologized. You're in the feels phase of this situation, not in the action phase yet. It doesn't matter if her friends judge her for things - she needs to stand up for you as her husband. My ex used to talk about our sex life to her friends all the time and though I thought things were good - I never felt comfortable with this arrangement. I'm sorry you went through this. Yeah, all of those things are a painful betrayal. Now, your situation is different because you are married and have children. That's the truth. Oh my god I fucking lost it at your comment. Please think about going to individual counseling as well as couples counseling! I have no advice but as a fellow bi, my condolences. She's lying to you to save face. Idc who they are. It takes a lot of trust and vulnerability to explore kinks with somebody. No. It was never between you and them anyway. You can't keep things like that a secret forever. i think you do need to consider the idea that it probably was indeed just girl talk, same as when guys just chat shit together. Sending you strength. My bf and I have been together not long 3 years but hes 33, I 27, and whenever there is even a shred of something that bugs either one of us we tell each other. OP-the one man who reached out to you, I feel he is a solid individual and have to give You major points to talking with him. Wow dude. Implying that OP's "flaw" as husband material is because he not 100% straight and slept with men is homophobic. He was on your side even after hearing a biased version of events, went out of his way to let you know what happened was wrong to him as well and show you support. I only started being a little open about it when I moved 3 states away from them and was dating a supportive partner. She used your innermost private information (your sexuality) as fodder for gossip and jokes. I dont get down with revenge fucks, but if I thought she was super malicious Id be behind that comment. Theres people that will truly respect you and love you the right way. Those so called friends are not real friends. My 2 cents is not worth much, but why did she not feel the need to tell you when she realized she let it slip from the drunken night? OP, be worried that you're married to someone willing to lie about how they feel about you to have a better image for their friend group. Best of luck. Get your better halves and get the fuck out of my house I sniped as I tipped my fedora and winked at my wifes hottest friend who was clearly impressed by my rage erection that had partially split the seam in my relaxed fit Levi 501s. By bringing it up then and making your feelings the most important feelings in the room, you are being childish. In this day and age? That sucks that your wife has such closed minded friends. Remember also that it is okay to feel uncomfortable - instead of fighting these feelings, allow them to just pass through you. Your story is isn't as violent, but its just as embarrassing and horrifying to hear. But, she finally conceded maybe he was genuine. Whatre you guys laughing about? I ask with a smile playing stupid. It sounds like her friends are shit. And I've faced this with my family-- I shut that crap down with a quickness. Isn't this basically reverse sexism? How I interpret she feels: she let slip in a drunken night that youre bi, she enjoys your sex life and when her friends made you the butt of the joke and were being judgmental about it, she felt ashamed, and in true weak fashion chose to join in vs stand up for you and herself. She told her friends some of your kinks gross her out, and then told them she fantasizes about her ex-boyfriend while you fuck her. Also? The Geni has escaped from the bottle, as there's no chance of putting it back in, you need to deal with the humiliation that you feel in how it was told. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. The fact she cares more about her homophobic friends opinions of her than her relationship with her partner says a lot. That means she's been laughing about their sex life for a couple years, after outing him and then hiding it from him. This is divorce worthy. Which means wherever you gothere will be a little voice in the back of your mind wondering if people are judging you or talking shit about you behind your back, I'm not sure how you move forward in this situation but I would suggest individual therapy and couples counseling.as well as asking her to put some distance between her and the people she ran her mouth to, I would suggest individual therapy and couples counseling.as well as asking her to put some distance between her and the people she ran her mouth to. You think youre slick enough to hide the resentment and anger but youre not. Your wife really messed up. And be prepared to put the fear of God, who loves bi and gay and straight people, and in Whose name marriage vows are made, into this Tom-person. You might want to discuss that during counselling, or maybe with a therapist. This is tough, because you're obviously going through it and I'm sorry you are hurt, very truly. They all laugh. But it's not cool to talk about your spouse like that to fit in and it's definitely not cool to talk about your intimate secrets with other people. After a very long silence, she said, "I guess we'll see how it all comes out in the wash anyway." They went to bed soon after. Not one woman was shocked or uncomfortable, just derogatory. German Husband let Young Boy Fuck his Wife in Threesome 14:30. Youre not overreacting at ALL. Youd be second guessing everything they tell you from here in. They were talking about ex-boyfriends and how another mutual friend of them cheated on her husband with an ex-boyfriend because he was better in bed. Let's give your wife the benefit of the doubt for a moment. She seems like a good egg caught in a bad moment however. Also you say you feel emasculated. I don't think you will recover from this. This isn't your fault. Plus she essentially participated or at the least validated, them ridiculing his sexuality. From one bi to another, I'm sorry you had to go through this, it's a bisexual's nightmare scenario to hear your long-term partner say this kind of shit. Maybe. I don't know why you'd even give it a B-. Sorry man, I feel like we all over share with our friends sometimes. But it needs to be on your terms. My worst mistake was not breaking up right away. Im in a similar, but much weirder, relationship (Im actually gay and married to a straight woman, we have an open marriage for our sex life, and a great family home life). Had a similar situation with my best friend. Couples therapy is a must, but it is on your wife to earn your trust back. What else is she keeping from OP? Same. Your wife hates that you're bi. Frankly I would be more able to forgive infidelity than I would these kind of conversations. If she had doubled down and defended herself and her friends, then that would be a break up situation imo. But 2 years later she is still talking about your most sacred aspect of your personal life, buy filling in her friends on the most private part of your life. I agree with this comment the most. I'd be crushed if I heard my wife's friend's say something like that, and then she just hangs me out to dry instead of standing up for me. I was in a conversation with two other girls about anal sex. Therapy is what you need. She not only outed him, but this obviously wasn't the first time they've discussed this. If so, I think you should try. When the "friends" make their snide comments, she should be backing you up, not joining in. That's a lifetime story . She said two of her friends are judgmental and believe youre either gay or straight and since I enjoy men (only sexually, not romantically) I must be gay. You and your sexuality are valid and you deserve to be treated as such. She sounds like she cares way too much about what these women think. I want to know how shes going to deal with her friends going forward. However you don't have to forgive and forget either; life isn't black and white. This right here. Your refusal to do so speaks to your character. Best of luck. As an aside, in tandem I would "shore up" the masculine vibe (I'm reluctant to say it, but if shes confronted with sommething she may traditionally view as feminine then it will prove a great juxtaposition if you are more "direct and masculine" while shes going through this priocess). She kept her bad friends 4. It's so important when you have a union of two souls to do everything you can to make sure that your love stays connected and flourishes. About number 2, she's lying and trying to back pedal. You deserve that. That is something you tell your partner immediately after it happens (same with exposing your sexuality to her friends). As for the rest of it, definitely couples counseling. This will help no matter what you decide. I think you handled that really well. When she closes her eyes shes thinking of other men, one of those other men is probably Tom. Just talk. My wife and I always have a number one rule at the foundation of our relationship: never say a bad word about each other to anyone else. OK she was drunk and your sexuality came out in a stupid moment. Im so lost. Seriously I have a whole lot of respect for you for how you reacted. But I also feel like it's a betrayal you can come back from. Why does she feel the need to show off to her friends in a way that makes them think less of you? I would just ask why her friends opinions matter more than yous twos intimacy. Normally I'd say you have to share it but I'm not sure what that looks like. We must feel sadness and despair to know joy, as frustrating as that might seem. Its not an easy solution. She really messed this up, she's immature and worried about offending the wrong people. Also she devolved some abusivo behaviour which, according to her was due to the lack of sex. When my husband and I had been together for maybe a year, I went to my mom exactly once for advice. I have one person I talk to sometimes about my gf. She buys all kinds of outfits and toys without me even suggesting it! She failed at the number one attribute an SO needs to be, your SO's most ardent defender. How unattractive I feel. Based on the way she acts in private i would think you are right in your opinion. To her, you're the butt of the joke. Wasnt even going to bring it up to her or get upset she didnt tell me. I can't stress enough how important it was that you didn't let this fester and at the same time you removed yourself from the situation to give yourself time to sort out your feelings. I told her to get a therapist to talk to about it but DO NOT TALK TO YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT MY DICK essentially. Reading this brought me back to heavy hearted times. There's a wide gulf between those that think that's okay and the rest of us. Not the rest of the world with their petty judgements. Im bi and from a close knit, homophobic religious family. Beer runs out so I head inside to grab more. She's just shown you that you can't trust her with your sexuality. Right? What drops it a full letter grade for me is that the protagonist is always an Abercrombie model. Your wife probably didn't want to admit in front of her friends that she likes that you're into butt stuff and initiates most of the time. Book an appointment with a therapist, maybe meet up with the one friend who called you, and after a couple of days reassess whether or not you want to try to make things work. It takes a bigger person to take the high road, and most people are not. Would she have ever stood up for you and put her friends in place? I know that your * secret life * is very personal to you, but not many people will be concerned or even bothered about your sexuality. Unfortunately as long as there are homophobic people out there, there is potential to damage his reputation. I am a very chill guy. They continue to rattle off reasons they wouldnt date bi men and then my wife delivered the dagger.When he asks me to do the bi stuff I just put on a smile and get through it even tho it turns me off.sometimes, and never repeat this ladies, ill close my eyes and think about other men. Most people in the comments seem to be going off of the deep end here. Honestly I admire you had the balls to call her out in front of her friends and kick everyone out! Also, she doesn't like your sex life. I bet you can still hold your head high with them. Your sex life sounds amazing. Youd always be thinking if you can trust them enough to give them certain information about yourself. I hope you are able to get marriage counseling and find a way through this wether it ends with you together or not. Couples counselling may help as well. Do not just shrug it off if you stay. Cuz while I get what youre saying, what OPs wife said was beyond just a little oopsie. Hubby is under the bus & she's driving over him again & again unnecessarily! I also pointed out that every single one of her relationships ended up being abusive so she had no right to tell me to leave my boyfriend when he'd never lay a finger on me. You and your wife decided to marry each other. She is reacting the right way to this, in that she's clearly upset and remoresful for her actions. First of all, I don't trust your wife. She said 'girls talk' and she has to have someone to talk to about stuff. Its amazing where friendship comes from in the darkest of times. Don't ruin your relationship because of this. In our response, lies our growth and our freedom. She should immediately be defending you if they're bigots and jerks about your sexuality. Also, your wife needs to drop her biphobic friends who are being a negative influence on her and you by proxy. you'd be shocked but how many wives/girlfriends go into detail about their sex lives with their friends. Don't minimize the situation and don't let anyone gaslight you into thinking you are overreacting or that this isn't divorce-level situation. So she outed you, and joked with friends about fantasizing about other men during sex because of your sexuality? "I overheard my wife talking to one of her best friends on the phone while I was passing the bedroom. The only thing I can think is that she didnt want you to worry or feel badly about itbut its an important thing I would want mentioned to me (an ex sniffing around and trying to get back together with my boyfriend). At a minimum she should have come clean about the bachelorette party thing the moment it happened. Good luck! Reading it, it definitely felt like she was saying stuff to fit in with judgy friends. Don't leave mate just get a bit of counselling to talk through your feelings about this situation with her and get some grounding. If you think you can continue in a relationship with someone who is so nonchalantly willing to throw you, your feelings, and your whole person under the bus so easily, for what? She is the person who is supposed to have your back the most, and not only did she not, she threw you to the wolves and also took some bites herself. I never said a word to anyone because I knew how bad she felt about that. See how it flushes out. All I know is I would never trust my wife ever again after something like this. Dont slide back to her. The trust cannot be restored and it would be better to separate for now. People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Even if it was a close call, you dont say that. I found out that Im extremely affects by stress, including fight at home. You need to tell her how this has made you feel and how hurt you are by it. No matter how many close and loving moments you have with your wife from this point forward, in the back of your mind youre gonna remember how easily someone -who you thought you were on the same team with- can piss all over that idea in exchange for making a few girls go no way?! That's so fucked man. I thanked him. I dont know what to do. This is a recipe that you can utilize to get through a tough circumstance or even a bad day. No true friend will stab you in the back. Things that concern only you two she turn into an open truth and open truths she kept from you. I suggest an open minded conversation. Couples counseling could work but it may also not be necessary, you two could work on it together. Your wife have no sense of conjugality. What she did was just bottom of the barrel type of shit. You can't act if you don't know how you feel. Id be worried he was sleeping with his friends and Id be scared of what he asked me to do in the bedroom they all giggled.i was FLOORED. Outing you accidentally is one thing, but there are a load of major no-nos here. I just dont believe that all the people who have commented how awful your wife is, have never said things they regret. There is nothing worse than feeling betrayed by the one person you thought you could trust with anything. Couples counseling may help rebuild trust. Solve thid situation by TALKING let her explain herself and then tell her what you feel. There is no combination of words that will make all this just go away. i love him but he doesn't excite me the way Tom did. She is trying to write this shit off as a mistake. I think you did the right thing in the moment but I would want her to confront her friends if what she said was true and come clean herself to them, Shes bullshitting about not meaning any of it. But don't be shocked when prople know already. She may actually not understand your bisexuality because its been something she said shes fine with but never actually confronted. It's healthy and necessary. Only point I wanted to make: it doesnt have to be one or the other. She should have told you from the beginning that she let it slip and stood up for you to her friends. The big question is are you still in love with your wife and enjoy having a family with her? Let that sink in. I'd be more open about your sexuality; if you've nothing to hide then the nasty wives have nothing to attack. Can you explain this because its giving homophobia, It could damage his reputation. Same! Don't make any decisions until you have calmed down. Or do you think Ive misunderstood? You don't have to let it go. Is she going to listen to her friends claim that you being bi has somehow swayed them? Your wife IMMEDIATELY tried to gaslight you as soon as she found out you heard what she had said. But there are definitely lines, and she crossed a big one. Divorce her. And highlight that she prioritized her friendships over your feelings. We have been married for more than 10 years and have . I agree though it does sound like she started the mocking of his sexuality. Keep sleeping on it, brother. Come on, you're not 19 anymore. This story isnt funny but that first line killed me. I'm conflicted because a lot of men talk about other women,wives,guys etc like that to seem tough and shit, but when a woman says it it makes it the end of the world? Taking a sensitive topic like sexuality and using yours in a way to demean you just so she can get a chuckle from her friends is unacceptable. Even if it is a stay vacation somewhere near your home. We have 2 amazing kids. If thats true then she needs to work on her confidence to be herself around her friends and nit be pressured to say things to sound cool. Even if it was a close call, you dont say that. Personally I don't think it's bad enough to end a good relationship over but you should make it clear that trying to hide her mistake and belittling you to others to save her self from their scorn is both childish and cruel. Especially the two narrow minded ones, All these comments already have good points, I just wanna add that you should definitely take your time. Hes outed now. Sounds like she cares more about what her friends think than how you feel. Go see a divorce attorney. It's human nature. The world is bad enough with mean enough people, you dont need your team mate trash talking you too. No real worries there. IDK what it's like to be bi and married but I am sure it present some special problems/concerns with you and your status in your social circle. Then lots of hard conversations and a come to Jesus with your wife. I started putting a voice recorder in my wife's car after u caught her cheating. I will always defend my guy. First let me say your SO is the fucking worst in my humble opinion. However you talk shit no doubt with your friends you would probably never want her to hearbwe can all be thoughtless assholes from time to time She chose you I'm not saying you overreacted must off been devastating to hear but it sounds like overall you guys have a good and loving relationship unless you are truly broken by this you need to talk and work out where you are now and whether this is repairable or not situation. Posing with her Dutch-born man, the 29-year-old . Now you know you have to be careful near her, from now on dont expose yourself that much. You both need support and work towards creating a space where you both can be more honest with one another. Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. People aren't accepting where I live either. Id give yourself more time before going home and talking. And why do you feed their judgement by throwing your husband to the wolves over this? Hows everything going out there? she asked motioning to the garage smiling nervously. It is also extremely concerning that she never told you that Tom approached her before the wedding. . What she did is disrespectful to you as her husband, to herself as your wife, disrespectful AF to your kids (because they will absolutely hear this rumorone day if you live in a small town) and in my opinion this is a divorce threshold. Especially because the reason behind the "close call" was because OP is bi. Even individual counseling as well, to help you understand your own feelings and what you want to do in this relationship. I would not have been able to control myself the same way no doubt. Would she throw them under the bus too or try to forbid them from coming out? He said if i wanna get together for a drink or whatever to let him know. There was also probably some truth to her bedroom comments. If my wife did this, I doubt I'd ever care to be into intimate with her again. For years. How much more reassurance do you need? I mean if she can demean you in front of her friends there is absolutely no issue putting her in her place in front of them as well. Own who you are and youll feel so much better. My dad was bisexual and if I heard my mother saying shit like that about him Id be livid. Not the act itself. Sorry you're going through this. It was a private part of your life that you trusted her with. As far as your confidence goes, why has that taken a hit? But we hung on. The third, least savoury issue: She may still have hidden feelings for Tom. Most of it was on alt accounts he made. I am floored you are the only person who has pointed this out. So my wife and one of her girlfriends were having a few glasses of wine, and while I was in my office I overheard a very awkward part of their conversation The other woman was complaining about her husband, quite openly, and specifically about the size of his penis. For the record, any intelligent person knows that there is no straight/gay/bi sex acts. Though she made some comments around it to her female friends, I would not take those seriously (imagining other men etc). It seems like it doesnt bother your one guy friend all that much and maybe having it a little out in the open will be nice. It's time to contact a lawyer, bro. Once your sexual history was out in the open and left you vulnerable to her girlfriends judgements, she decided to join in and talk shit about it and mention that she thinks of other men while pleasuring you since it turns her off. As for your wife - I think her feelings are understandable even if her actions were insensitive. I packed a bag, kissed the kids goodbye, and told them I was going to grandmas house to help her with something. Does she really think they dont laugh at her for doing bi things with you behind her back as well? Thirdly, those friends have got to GO. Agreed! Whenever theyre in bed together, the thought of her thinking of other man will show up in his head. As long as they're not being super stupid, 100% in public and then you tell them off in private. Let's give your wife the benefit of the doubt for a moment. The real question on my mind is why is she friends with people who belittle you for your sexuality? she also choose to make fun of you to her friends instead of standing up for you. And regarding the "I let it slip while drunk" part, she's still responsible for her acts while drunk. And her dissing your sexual needs to her friends and I truly understand that it was very hurtful and disrespectful to you and your marriage. You have every right to your feelings and if the roles were reversed there would still be hurt feelings. Why would she tell them you enjoy costumes? I was so suprised how she talked about me to her friends and family..and when I confronted her I had the evidence. I learned that it is usually a sign of people not sharing everything, not saying that is your situation, but she violated your trust and didnt even give you the courtesy of giving you the heads up. Chin up man. One of the things they dont tell you about relationships is that you gotta be able to stand up for your SO when the time comesso even if OPs wife doesnt actually believe all that and bent to peer pressure, that really sucks and Im sorry she feels that way with her friends, but she shouldnt be surprised if she loses her husband. I am not straight, nor am I gay. Maybe your wife didnt feel comfortable telling her friends that she enjoyed herself because she didnt want to be judged. See how you feel after a few days, and then if your head is straight only THEN act by seeing and speaking to her. Thats something she and you will have to work on because she shouldnt be embarrassed of it, but at the same time I kind of understand how she can buckle under the pressure of her friends opinions. Another violation of your trust. Im about to grab the beers and be on my way. Me: girls, get your better halves and get the fuck out of my house They all pop right up and walk past me. When they reacted a little judgy then she may have backpeddled a bit. I told her I cant believe shed ever say something like that or not tell me how she felt.she continued to swear she was just being stupid and didnt mean or feel anything she said. Winston Churchill From everything, the most painful one was when exposition. She was prepared to throw you under the bus and make you the butt of a joke just to impress her friends? He said his wife told him what happened and he wanted to let me know he doesnt give a shit about me being bi and thinks the while situation is fucked. You heard the truth when she was talking to her friends, about your private life, without your knowledge. Her calling it bi shit, begrudgingly doing it, thinking of someone else. How long has she been friends with them? BS. The slider to the patio from the kitchen is open. I could only imagine how crap you feel right now. Best of luck. Is going to take a very long time to fix such fuckery. I think you did the right thing by leaving that night, although blowing up the party that was might not have been the best idea. This friend is in a serious relationship," he kicked off the contenscious post. 2. I reckon that weve all said things we wouldnt want our SO to hear at some point. 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